How does it feel to have low self esteem?

09 - Jul - 2024

People often describe their experience of low self esteem as a persistent feeling of insecurity, inadequacy, self-doubt, and a lack of belief in one's own worth. This negative self-perception can have a profound effect on an individual's emotional well-being, relationships, and overall quality of life.

One of the primary feelings associated with low self-esteem is a constant expereince of self-criticism and self-doubt. This can manifest in a variety of ways, such as feeling like you are never good enough, comparing yourself unfavorably to others, and being overly sensitive to criticism or rejection. Often people talk of feeling like a fraud. These negative thoughts can create a cycle of self-defeating behaviors and can prevent individuals from realising their full potential.

Living with low self-esteem can also lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness. When you do not value yourself, it can be difficult to form meaningful connections with others and to let your guard down. This can result in social withdrawal, difficulty in forming close relationships, and a sense of being misunderstood or unappreciated by others.

Additionally, low self-esteem can impact one's mental health and well-being. It can contribute to feelings of anxiety, depression, and a sense of hopelessness about the future. This negative self-image can also lead to stress and feelings of inadequacy in various areas of life, such as work, school, and personal relationships.

Of course these feeling can also lead to sufferers avoiding taking action such as applying for jobs or starting relationships because they fear not being good enough. Of course over time this can lead to someone falling behind their peers only contributing or affirming their negative self beliefs. Individuals with low self-esteem may not feel confident enough to try new things, set ambitious goals, or assert themselves in challenging situations. This can result in a lack of personal growth and development, as individuals may be held back by their own self-imposed limitations.

Another experience of people with low self esteem is to be surprised when people provide positive feedback, comments from friends, family, colleagues and managers may highlight that the persons view of themselves is out of line with those around them. Low self esteem often stems from negative early experiences and is often helpfully brought to therapy.

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