Counselling, Psychotherapy and Psychology Blog
Partners often struggle to resolve conflicts that arise from varying parenting styles. Naturally, we want the very best for our children and we therefore try to offer them what we have found most helpful, show them love in the way we experience love and try to help them develop and keep safe in the same way we have. But what happens when these things are different for parenting partners?
Disagreement is an integral part of human experience. We all have our individual views, needs and interests, which are different to those of others. These differences help make our relationships exciting and supportive. They also carry the seeds of conflict which, if unresolved, breeds anger and resentment. The pattern is all too familiar: communication breaks down, we build a fortress to defend our “rightful position” and throw accusations at the “other”. Eventually, things get stuck in an intractable mess.
Nicholas's book, Better Together, encourages readers to take a step back and to think about their relationship through a lens he calls ‘togethering’ which shines a light on how disturbance and struggles occur and the shifts in perception that can bring healing and harmony.
This blog post shares one of the stories from the book of fictional partners in therapy with Nicholas. For more information on this book and how to buy a copy of Better Together - the relationships book
Lived experiences of inner conflict often generate emotional turmoil, characterised by intense feelings of doubt, anxiety, and tension. The contradictory thoughts and desires within us can create a sense of ambivalence, making it challenging to make decisions or take action.
While inner conflicts can often be distressing, they also present opportunities for personal growth and development. Through introspection, self-reflection, and seeking external support, individuals can work towards resolving these conflicts.
Do the simplest of tasks feel impossible? Do you often feel overwhelmed, hopeless, and isolated? The lived experience of depression can vary from person to person, but there are some common themes that emerge. One of the most challenging aspects of depression is the feeling of isolation. People with depression often want to withdraw from the world around them and feel disconnected from their friends and family.
The relationships book 'Better Together' written by Nicholas Rose is now available from even more book sellers.
Elspeth has been working as an Art therapist for the past nineteen years. She is
registered with the Health and Care Professions Council (HCPC) and is a member of
the British Association of Art Therapists (BAAT). Elspeth offers both online and in-
Person therapy in Kensington/Earl’s Court.
The focus is on the artwork as a means of communicating difficulties, rather than
solely the difficulties themselves and she uses a psychodynamic model. It is important
to know that the work in art therapy is not judged in any way on artistic competence
In this blog post Nicholas Rose speaks with Senior Associate Psychotherapist Monika Smolar about Trauma and EMDR - Eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing.
In this article UKCP Psychotherapist Nicholas Rose considers the concerns facing men when research has shown huge increases in mental health issues. Nicholas talks about the impact of the pandemic, lockdowns, cost of living crisis and other current factors such as gender expectations, social media, relationships and suicide rates before sharing his experience of what men bring to therapy and then what can be done to protect and improve men's mental health.
So how are you and your loved ones doing?
A great place to start is with this very question. We are really used to asking this question, the problem is that it is often used as a greeting as opposed to an actual enquiry and then we are not always ready or equipped for the answer the question might bring. I’m sure we all have experience of answering or hearing ‘fine’ to this question where rather than the adverb meaning of ‘very well’ it might be more easily understood as an abbreviation such as Frustrated, Insecure, Neurotic, Exhausted.